I was those kids seem to suddenly from the womb eager to achieve goals, and make people proud. When my fifth grade teacher’s challenge, we’ve read ten books this summer, I read twenty. I was student body President of my high school, captain of my dance team. However, with Tracy Flick, I’m not so much after the domination of the world, because I appreciate his glow I feel from being validated as a smart, pretty, hard work, or Regardless Stamp of approval du jour, said: You are special.
Flash forward twenty years, I learned a lot about the importance of the damage, addictive loop, I find my self worth in other people opinion. I now know that this is a losing battle, because at the end of the day, another person’s praise will never meet this desire we all have to feel very special. I know that everyone, even those who seem the most confident have their own insecurities. I You know what? All of these things, but still. In today’s social media driven world, it can feel almost impossible to maintain a strong sense of self when faced with images of life appear so perfect on a daily basis: each of the institutions, the family, their glowing skin and stylish clothes, the expert Chamber of the almost mystical level of representation in our daily. Especially for those of us(like me)biased comparison.
A few months ago, I saw the document series Shangri-La About music producer Rick Rubin and his artist development and a mentor in his legendary recording Studio high in the mountains of Malibu. I was struck by the fact that many of these artists(and we’re talking up to one of the performers in their game)may become almost paralyzed by the pressure to create the next#1 record and the risk of failure of the process. A little discussion of what it means to be truly creative, he said something to stop me in my tracks:
“I need to define indicators of success.”
This means that if we want to create great work and living a life that is fulfilling, We (Each of us)have the right to decide what is”success”means to us as individuals. We chase the salary, job title, Instagram likes, or some other”indicators”that can be felt validated, but not necessarily in line with our values? In order to answer this question, we must know, of course, our personal values and priorities.
The other day, I realized that I was feeling anxious whether I should do more social media whether it is my company’s growth my 5-year plan, saying that it should be combined with other external measures of achievement. I sat in my chair for my morning quiet time, took a deep breath and remind yourself: I am determined to measure my success. Because life is too short to spend effort after a goal that others have for you. For me, the real success is to be creative and try something new daily, inspiring others, and spread joy. It brings more purpose into the lives of our audience. Most importantly, it is personally in my own life I love most.
When we put ourselves to return, in the driver’s seat of our own success, and recognize that no one else can define it for us, we are free to stop trying for other people’s approval. We can try and fail, without having to worry so much what others think. It takes a long-term look at our own happiness, and the game is because we can let go of trying to control everything and to take risks.
I live the kind of adventurous, chaotic, curious, full of joy of life in the sound there is a lot of fun to develop the”perfect”one.