How do you deal with criticism? (NSQ Ep. 7)

Or is it better to sent a congratulatory note to the people who deserve it or condolence note to the people who need it?


Related resources and research

Question 1: We need critical feedback to improve, so why is it difficult to hear see it?

  • Stephen refers to a recent conversation with David Byrne, frontman of the acclaimed rock band The Orator’s head and the man behind the Not stupid questions The theme song,”she is.” Stephen spoke with Byrne on the Devil’s radio Ep. 417,”the reason to be cheerful”—in the episode, The Bourne shares his experience with negative comments, and discussed his new project reasonstobecheerful. World.
  • Angela admired her friend, the organizational psychologist Adam authorization, the process of criticism, she said that the grant usually requires colleagues to critically review his public statements, and then rate yourself on how well he receives feedback. You can check out two such lectures, on his Ted Talk page:”the surprising habits of the original thinkers”and”you are a person or a taker?”
  • Stephen tells a story about a creative writing workshop he had, while in graduate school. This is part of a master of arts program in writing at Columbia University, Stephen received his degree in 1990, and later in University. You can read more details about his experience Columbia Magazine.
  • Stephen and Angela in a discussion of a study, commonly known as the”wise feedback file,”which found that teachers were able to make feedback 40%more effective, through the front of the 19 words. 2014 study published in the Experimental Psychology journal: General And is called”breaking the cycle of mistrust:wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide.”
  • Stephen and Angela’s briefly talk about the idea of”Radical Candor.” Executive coach Kim Scott is the author of The New York Times Best seller Radical FrankAnd Bridgewater a member of Ray Dalio, famous for the practice of radical transparency.


Question#2: This is a more meaningful act to celebrate a friend’s achievement or to support them through a loss?

  • Angela original work of social psychologists Shelly Gable taught Stephen how to best support a loved one’s accomplishments. In a 2006 paper,”will you be there for me when things? Supportive reaction to positive event disclosures,”Gable and her collaborators discuss the importance of positive and constructive reaction.
  • For resources on how to best support someone in difficult moments, Angela recommended to find the support to listen—establish a relationship tool, which Stephen initially laughed at, but soon learn to accept.
  • Before Angela fully explain this concept of support to listen to,Stephen’s jokes, it seems to be a”Saturday Night Live Version of grief.” For a practical Saturday Night Live Version of sad, take a look at this 1976 sketch in Chevy Chase plays a priest, who also can not stop the hiccups at a funeral.

Stephen and Angela briefly discuss this idea of”mirroring”—a subconscious reflection of another person’s behavior. To learn more about the science behind the image, we recommend checking out this 2016 paper The Royal Society of:”The mirror and beyond: coupled power as a generalized framework to model social interactions.”

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